The Bachelorette Party
Last weekend I trekked to the Hamptons for my friend Tina’s bachelorette party. For two days, I was living the good life–window shopping in high end stores, staring at ritzy people (like Russell Simmons) and sill bachelorette games like this:
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Saturday night was our “Let’s go crazy!” night. We had a lovely dinner at The Lodge that included an open bar for two hours, and we all know what kind of trouble open bars can stir up. To get the party started, my best friend Ashley and I approached a man in hopes that he would talk to the bride-to-be.
“Hey, our friend is getting married. Do you want to chat with her?” Ashley asked with a smile.
The man in the pink shirt frowned and put his hand to her face in a that totally 90’s “talk to the hand!” manner. “Wow, you’re an asshole.” I commented.
“Oh yeah? Well, you’re a bitch!” snapped Mr. Pink Shirt.
I looked at him in disgust and walked away. But I didn’t walk too far. I was still close enough to Mr. Pink to make sure that when the bartender placed his cosmopolitan on the bar I leaned over just enough to spill it all over him. Oops! sorry, but I was convinced he needed a little more pink in his outfit.
After the Mr. Pink fiasco we continued to to mingle. Every so often, the girls and I would come across couples and ask them to give Tina advice on marriage. Most couples said “communications is key”, which is such a boring response. Think about it–if you had a dollar for every time someone said this in a magazine or on a TV show you’d be a millionaire, right?
Then we came across three caballeros who had some real gems to share with us.
“It’s important to feel safe,” said Larry, one of the three wise men. “Safe in the sense that when you come home, you can be yourself. Your partner will not judge you when you make mistakes or say something wrong. You know that no matter what, he or she will always be there.”
I looked at Larry in awe. What a brilliant thing to say and it makes so much sense. What’s the best advice you ever received about marriage or being in a relationship? I’m want to hear your gems too!
Un Abrazo Fuerte,
Lex
I leave you for a weekend with an image of just how violent I can get when it comes to karaoke (that me, wrestling the mic away from that poor innocent dude who clearly had no idea what he was getting into).
The best advice someone gave me was to make sure I was happy before getting into a relationship, because in order to make someone else happy you need to first be happy with yourself. So I always make sure to love myself and now that I have my wonderful man (we just signed our first lease together yesterday) I know how to love him.
Communication is important though and so is sex….haha…just kidding.
Always place time aside for yourself. Sometimes dealing with a husband, kids, pets, etc can really stress you out. Then you’ll end up being depressed because your not taking care of yourself. Your not being greedy, your just taking care of yourself.
The most important thing in a relationship is learning to compromise without losing yourself. Your partner will respect you more for it and, most importantly, you’ll respect yourself.